I finally saw the pattern in why my friends keep ghosting after 3 months

Tbh, I've noticed something real specific after my last three friends just stopped texting back around month three. It's not random or about being busy it's whenever I start asking for help with something big like moving or a ride to the airport. They're fine with casual hangouts but the second it gets inconvenient they bail. Am I the only one who's seen this exact timeline play out?

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max_hernandez2719d ago

Three months in and asking for moving help? That's wild dude.

caseythompson19d ago

The "three month rule" thing is real but I think you might have the cause backwards lol. Most people are fine helping with a ride or moving if they actually feel close to you. The ghosting at three months usually happens because the friendship never moved past casual hangouts in the first place. Like if you only ever grab drinks or watch movies together, then asking for a big favor three months in can feel like you skipped a bunch of steps.

jamie80419d ago

yeah nah you're not alone in this at all, i've had the exact same thing happen where everything's cool for a few months then suddenly they vanish when you actually need them. it's like they hit this invisible timer in their head and decide you're not worth the effort once it's not just fun and games anymore. honestly it makes you question if you're just bad at picking people or if that's just how modern friendships work now, everyone wants the good times but dips when there's any real weight to the relationship. i've started paying way more attention to who actually shows up when i ask for something small before i even think about asking for the big stuff, it filters out a lot of the flaky types pretty quick. sorry you're dealing with that though, it sucks to feel like you're being measured by some weird timeline nobody told you about.