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A mechanic in Pittsburgh said one thing that made me rethink cutting off my brother
My brother borrowed $2,000 for a car repair three years ago and never paid it back. I stopped answering his calls after that, told myself he was a leech. Then last month I was working on a unit at a shop in Pittsburgh and the owner mentioned how his own brother screwed him over a decade ago. He said he still talks to his brother, just keeps him at arm's length and never loans money again. That hit different because I went straight to burning the bridge instead of setting a boundary. Has anyone else found a middle ground with family who burned you once, or is walking away always the cleaner move?
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blakestone28d ago
...the other bank of the family river, you know? My sister borrowed my car for a weekend and returned it with a dent the size of a dinner plate and zero explanation. I did the whole dramatic cut-off thing for like six months, and honestly it felt good until Thanksgiving got awkward for absolutely everyone else. What finally worked was just resetting the rules. I told her straight up I'm not mad about the dent, but I'm also never handing over my keys again, and if she needs a ride she can ask like a normal person. It's not the same as before, but it's way lighter than carrying around all that anger. Your mileage may vary, but sometimes a bridge with a toll booth beats no bridge at all.
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