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The day I realized I was the toxic friend, not her

For like 5 years I thought my friend Sarah from Portland was the problem. Always cancelling plans, never checking in. Then I saw her phone screen light up at dinner with 14 unread messages from me and zero from anyone else. That moment I understood I was smothering her with constant contact, expecting the same energy back. Anybody else ever been the one who pushed too hard?
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baker.holly
Oh wow, I actually see it the other way. If she never told you it was too much, how were you supposed to know? People cancel all the time and it's on them to speak up if something's bugging them.
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grant478
grant4787d ago
Did you ever ask her directly what she needed from you?
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